Monthly Archives: March 2013

Walking off the lead…

Change, it’s a recurring theme for me recently.

Not only me, the people around me are feeling it too. Clients, family, friends, change is in the air. Not sure if it’s to the forefront at the moment because it’s Spring.  Or at least meant to be.
Anyway, change.  It’s a powerful decision.  To decide to make things different.  Sometimes you make the decision yourself, other times it’s made for you.
The other day I took my sister’s dog out a walk.
All ready for her walk, cute as a button in her coat

All ready for her walk, cute as a button in her coat

Molly is kind of insane.  She’s been to dog training and started chaos with all the other dogs there. She’s ben hyper since she was brought home.  She jumps — continuously, and leaps about on her back legs.  Not sure anyone has told her dogs walk on all four….  My sister got a dog trainer to come to her house and do one to one training.  The trainer said that Molly was hugely anxious and that was why she was behaving in that way. After that lesson, she was much better.  She calmed down a lot.  Don’t get me wrong, she’s still got a way to go, she’s not going to be taking any prizes in Crufts anytime soon.  But she’s much more settled and she’s becoming better at walking on the lead.  Previously she would pull and run ahead, ending up choking herself on the collar.  Now she’s getting better at walking on the lead and taking her time.  So change can happen in a short period of time, even when it seems like it never will, and make a big difference.
When Molly’s anxiety cleared and she realised she didn’t need to be so anxious all the time, then her behaviour changed  How many things in our life make us anxious, how many of these ‘choke’ us daily and prevent us from walking forward in our lives?
Calm enough now to go for a paddle!
This past week I’ve been thinking a lot about change. I’ve had conversations with  few different people. Some people have change foisted upon them because of changes that happen in their lives.  Others feel they are ‘stuck’ and think that big changes are the way forward for them. Both of these situations are making people anxious.
So i invite you to learn a lesson from Molly’s experience…. What is making you anxious just now? What changes or proposed changes are causing you anxiety?  Is it a change you want to make but aren’t sure how?  Is it a change that you feel you need help with?  For a moment, let that anxiety clear, put it down for a bit.  You can pick it up again later if you choose to :).  But unload whatever worries you have about the change for now, the questions of how to go about it or what will happen next. And just think about how you will feel when you have made that change.
Picture it, in your mind, the outcome of the change.  Get the image clear and bright and perfect.  Notice how you look in the picture, what you’re wearing, how you are walking. Listen to what is happening around you.  Are people complimenting you on making that change?  What are you saying to yourself?  Feel what it feels like to have made that change. To have achieved that goal. And notice how much easier it is now to move forward in your life.
You may find you don’t want to pick those anxieties up again, but instead choose to be free of them, and walk forward into the new you with ease….
Getting better at walking to heel!

Getting better at walking to heel!

Clean curry


Another recipe for you today.

I love a curry.  This isn’t a particularly hot one, but it is nice and warming on a cold day like today. The recipe below makes quite a large amount of curry.  It always tastes better the next day but there should still be some left over for the freezer for an easy meal during the week.  The version I’ve detailed below is a vegetarian one, but it’s good to make as a base that you can add chicken, fish, prawns etc to for protein.  I like to have a couple of boiled eggs cut up and added to it too.
The measurements aren’t precise, I’ve a habit of just chucking things in to see if it works. So there is room for a bit of playing around with ingredients and amounts.  I’ve listed what I put in the one pictured.
3 tbsp coconut oil (if you haven’t tried coconut oil yet – get some! Will do a post on it soon, but it’s a wonder oil. I use it to cook with, on my skin and hair)
1 tsp ground ginger
3 heaped tsps curry powder (I used medium)
2-4 tbsp Thai red curry paste (get a clean one, I use Thai Taste – you can get it in most supermarkets)
2 onions – I used one white, one red
Garlic – this is dependent on taste, I used 6 cloves (vampires won’t be bothering me!)
Fresh ginger – a decent sized chunk, maybe a couple of inches
Carrots – 2 or 3 decent sized ones, cut into thick slices
Parsnips – 2 or 3, cut into thick slices
1 cauliflower cut into florets
Half a red pepper, cut into chunks
Half a green pepper, cut into chunks
Half a bag of spinach
2 chillies – one red, one green
1 pint vegetable stock
1 or 2 cans of coconut milk (depends on how thick you like the curry)
lentils and split peas (about 3 good handfuls of both – soak these in water overnight or for at least a few hours then rinse before using)
fresh coriander
Salt and pepper to taste
  1. Chop the onions into chunks. Finely chop or grate the ginger root and garlic.
  2. Heat the coconut oil in a large pan, add the onion, ginger and garlic and cook for a few minutes until the onion softens.
  3. Add the spices and curry paste, cook for five minutes to release the aromas. Stir in the chillies.
  4. Add the cauliflower and stir until coated with spices and onions.
  5. Add the parsnip, carrot and peppers.
  6. Stir in the lentils and split peas until well mixed in.
  7. Pour in the vegetable stock and a can of coconut milk. Cover and simmer for about 40 minutes until the veg are cooked and the lentils and split peas have broken up.
  8. Add salt and pepper to taste and an extra can of coconut milk if you think it’s too thick.
  9. Add the spinach, stir into the curry and leave to wilt.
  10. Simmer for another 10 minutes or so.
  11. To serve, finely chop the coriander and scatter on top.


Green goodness

I’ve been sick this week, caught some bug that was doing the rounds and was feeling rubbish.  I’m lucky to have avoided most of the colds and flu that has been circulating all winter, I put it down to eating clean most of the time.

Since I got sick I’ve been drinking LOADS of green juice.  I’ve been using a few different recipes, but this is my standard version I use all the time.


1 green apple

1 pear

1 banana (the riper the better)

juice of a lemon

half a cucumber

a chunk of ginger (usually about 1 1/2 inches but I like it gingery)

3 stalks of celery

half a bag of spinach

parsley, basil or coriander (depends on what I have at the time)


sometimes I throw in some blueberries

It’s easy to make, you don’t need a juicer – I just throw it all in the blender and blend until it’s liquid.  You can add water until it becomes the desired consistency.

I drink this all year round, not just when I’m ill.  It’s great to have first thing in the morning as a shot of vitamins to start the day.  Really energises you and gives you a boost.

The juice will keep in the fridge for a couple of days, or you can freeze it and defrost it the night before to have it ready for the morning :).

Give it a go!

Who I choose to be…

I probably shouldn’t be writing this when I’ve been out for the evening. But these thoughts were precipitated by a conversation with a friend earlier tonight.

You are not your past.  You are not the sum total of what you have done in your life.

You are who you choose to be.

There will be some people who are determined to keep you in your past, for whom it is safer to pigeonhole you into the space they are comfortable with, to keep you as you were so that they can still relate, but you are not that person.

Everyone has a past.  Everyone has history.  That history has taken you on a journey and got you to where you are today.  It has woven the tapestry of your life, and coloured it.  It has given it depth, and meaning.  But it is not who you are.

You are who you choose to be.

I have a past.  As do you.  In my past, I was all sorts of people.

I was a geek – I won prizes for maths, I did extra study in school holidays.

I partied hard.  I had fun.  A lot of fun :).

I was an artist.  I created things.

I was a blonde, a brunette, a redhead.

I was all sorts of different people, I did all sorts of different things.  I found all sorts of people interesting and I made some wonderful friends.  Who I was, brought me people I still treasure today.  People who recognize me for what I am.

I am who I choose to be.

All the ‘mistakes’ I made, all the wrong turns I took, all the monumental f*ck ups I have had – all of them have got me to here.  To where I am now.  They have given me the strength and the wisdom to become who I want to be.

I am who I choose to be.

Thomas Edison was once asked (for now let’s ignore what he did to Tesla) how he dealt with the fact he had failed 10,000 times before he invented the light bulb.  His answer was “I have not failed.  I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work”.

There Is NO failure, there is only feedback.

I’ve thought I failed – countless times.  I’ve failed, and f*cked up and done it over and over again.  But really, when it comes down to it – I haven’t.  I’ve learned how I DON’T want to live my life.  I’ve learned who I DON’T want to be.  I’ve learned what I love, what I value, what is important to me. Who is important to me.  I’ve had feedback – internal, and external.  I’ve had friends give me feedback that wasn’t always welcome.  But I’ve learned. And I’ve grown.  And I’ve moved on and changed.

I’ve become who I choose to be..

Misty mornings

Last couple of days I’ve woken at 5am.  I haven’t set the alarm, I just seem to have woken at that time and not been able to get back to sleep.

This morning I spoke to a couple of friends online who are in different time zones.  Then I stood at the window and looked out at the foggy landscape for a while.

The fog was thick, you couldn’t see much at all and it leant an eerie look to the landscape.  I always think fog makes a place look atmospheric.  It cloaks the area in mystery and transforms somewhere familiar into somewhere different entirely.  What could be hiding under the mist?  What treasures are hiding waiting to be discovered when those mists clear?  What possibilities lie beneath it?

Driving into work this morning a lot of people were being hesitant because they couldn’t see what was up ahead.  Most of them knew the way, but because the familiar landmarks had been taken away and they could only see a small amount ahead, folk were driving slower than usual.

Do we always need to see the whole road ahead?  Or do we only need to see the part we’re travelling on right now?

I’ve been guilty recently of focusing too much on the big goal, the destination I want to get to, that I’ve got stuck and not known what to do to get there, as it seemed so far away.

But I only really need to see a little bit further ahead.

If I see the road in front of me well enough to take that step, and keep on taking small steps towards my destination then I’ll get there.  And as I get more confident, as the mists clear, as the possibilities are revealed to me, then I can pick up speed and move quicker towards my goal.